The Today Show did a piece on birthmothers finding their surrendered childrend through social media. (See link HERE)
The following are some of the insensitive remarks made on the Today Show's facebook page. Asshats.
Tara Greenup Baylor If they chose to give up there child for someone else to raise then they shouldnt be looking for that child. U gave up ur child which means they not urs anymore they have a new mama, daddy, & family. U made ur choice now deal with the concequences. If that child u gave up on comes to find u later on in life then & only then can u see that child. Dont ruin someone elses life bc u made the wrong choice!
Naomi Sweet It's such a sensitive question to ask. I am an adoptive parent to an amazing 12yr old boy. To be quite honest, I hope that he never reconnects with his bioparents due to their lifestyles. I'd hope that even when my son becomes an adult that he nor them try to make contact!!
Robbie Caudill Denny NO ...once the papers are signed , he is my child !!! I am the one who has taken on this responsibility as his parent !!!
Irene Carter-Rivera NO! You gave the child up... Move on. The child now has a family. I hate birth parents who want the best of both worlds. No diapers or expenses but want to play mommy and daddy.
Melissa Alexander Lippincott my son is adopted from another country and therefor he does not have the same name so his birth mom wld never be able to find him, thank God!
Barbara Rench BIRTH PARENTS SHOULD LEAVE THEIR ADOPTED KIDS ALONE.THEY MESSED UP THE KIDS LIVES. ONCE THEY DO NOT NEEDTO DO IT AGAIN
Ray S. Ormond Heck no!? If they didn't have guts enough to raise the child, they got no business butting in and cause emotional problems later! If the kid wants to connect, that's a different thing - because the kid has a right to know - but "parents" who dump their responsibilities at the beginning should butt out!!
Linda Lentz no, leave them alone it is bad enough you had them and gave them away so don't screw them up anymore by trying to interfere in their lives
And my favorite one:
Shirley Harris White I feel they gave up the right as a parent to these children.I myself adopted 2 children at birth ,and they were told when they were 8.they are in thier 20's now if my children feel the need to look up their incubators it's up to them not the incubators.
Jane Mashburn Ingles The people who raised you are your parents not a bimbo and a sperm donor.
Too bad those asshats are the majority. We need more like this woman:
Mary Jo Wetterstroem Wickelhaus This is why today, open adoption is such a great choice! Birthmothers can continue to be a part of the child's life. There is never any doubt that she loves the baby she gave birth to but wasn't able to parent. She is always there for any medical history as well.
Crap, crap, and more crap!
ReplyDeleteThis does NOT acknowledge a child's need (and right) to know, or at least know about, his or her birth parents.
If you're foolish enough to discount their psychological needs, at least think of their medical needs. They each need, and deserve, to know what is in their genetics and, in extreme cases, who might be in their pool of potential organ/marrow, etc. donors.
Forcibly separating children and birth parents is domestic terrorism.
Of course, if mama's a crack whore and daddy's a rapist, protect the child from any, or any unsupervised, contact. But, once they're adults (if not before) tell them about their parents, and warn them of possible problems with an association with them.
Allow such children supervised contact, if desired, through intermediaries, while keeping both the parents' the child's names and whereabouts anonymous. Do not deny them contact, unless there is reason to believe one may inflict harm on the other.
And, don't ignore the parents who give up a child "to give it a better life" than they can provide, at the time.
If the child was thrown into the foster system, or worse, the birth parents should be informed of such facts, and be given a role in helping to seek a safe home for the child.
They should also receive ongoing documentation that the child continues to have a safe home.
At best, adoption is becoming human trafficking.
At worst, it already is.